ivypool2005 posted an update 11 months, 1 week ago
    ivypool2005 posted an update 11 months, 1 week ago

    NBWeek Day 5: Nonbinarity in Relation to the World
    @ivypool2005 (Ivy)
    @itzmoviestar (Movie Star/Connie)
    @dotalltheway (Jess)
    @everimagine (Eva)
    @flowerground6 (Flo)
    @evilxaudrey
    @goodandevil5050 (Shadow)
    @thecoven4ever (Cove)
    @carrot123
    @catsforlife (Cats)
    @alexofroom66 (Alex)
    @leilamofwoodsbeyond (Leila)
    @skyeoffoxforest[Read more]

    ivypool2005 posted an update 11 months, 1 week ago

    NBWeek Day 5: Misconceptions
    @ivypool2005 (Ivy)
    @itzmoviestar (Movie Star/Connie)
    @dotalltheway (Jess)
    @everimagine (Eva)
    @flowerground6 (Flo)
    @evilxaudrey
    @goodandevil5050 (Shadow)
    @thecoven4ever (Cove)
    @carrot123
    @catsforlife (Cats)
    @alexofroom66 (Alex)
    @leilamofwoodsbeyond (Leila)
    @skyeoffoxforest[Read more]

        ivypool2005 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        One misconception that annoys me a lot is that people assume nonbinary people are comfortable with being treated as any gender, or that we “fit” in both male and female categories. Like, no, you can’t just split the class into girls and boys and say, “You’re nonbinary, so that means you can be either!” You need to actually change your system to be…[Read more]

        ivypool2005 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        Another misconception that seems to be widely accepted is the idea that all nonbinary genders are a mix of male and female. I’ve shared this graphic a *few* times before, but it’s actually more like this:

        It’s hard for a lot of people to wrap their heads around the idea that there are genders completely separate from male and female, but it’s…[Read more]

          everimagine replied 11 months, 1 week ago

          I totally agree here! Some days I feel female, some days I feel like something else, sometimes a little both. But it’s not black and white that I am one all the time or always one or the other.

        ivypool2005 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        Finally, I have one more: the misconception that all pronouns that aren’t she/her or he/him fit equally well for all nonbinary people. You can’t use xe/xem pronouns for someone whose pronouns are they/them because you don’t understand how plural nouns work. In addition, if there’s a nonbinary person who uses she/her or he/him pronouns, don’t use…[Read more]

        itzmoviestar replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        One misconception people hold with people on the nonbinary spectrum is that we all fluctuate towards androgyny and gender-neutrality in terms of self expression. That’s absolutely untrue – while there are many androgynous nonbinary people, not everyone is. Some people present more masculine or more feminine and that is absolutely okay and it…[Read more]

          ivypool2005 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

          Yes, thank you! This is such an important thing for people to understand!

          flowerground6 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

          Absolutely! (That’s actually what my storytime is about today, I’ll post it in a minute)

        carrot123 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        ^^^
        I’ve been thinking a bit about my gender, and like both Audrey and Flo said, sometimes I feel a bit female, and sometimes I feel like something else. I’m not sure what that is, but I’ll figure it out later.

        ms-boba-kitten replied 10 months ago

        I was scrolling through random people’s activity and I stumbled upon your NBweek posts and I’ve found them incredibly eye-opening. I have a lot of friends both irl and online, and even though I’ve expressed and felt only kindness and acceptance towards them, I haven’t always been accepting towards enbys and so naturally as a cisgender female I…[Read more]

          everimagine replied 10 months ago

          That’s awesome that you’re learning! I’m glad our little community has helped you in this way, and appreciate your ability to change your ways. There’s a lot of people in this world who would benefit from that skill 🙂

        ms-boba-kitten replied 10 months ago

        Yeah, I also appreciate it a ton when you take the time to educate others

          ivypool2005 replied 9 months, 4 weeks ago

          Seeing these comments means the world to me. I’m so glad and incredibly grateful that I’m able to have an impact on people with my words. <3

        agathaofwoodsbeyond2019 replied 5 months, 2 weeks ago

        I’m sorry for disrupting the serious talk but I just read “genderqueer” as “genderqueen” and can I just say

          everimagine replied 5 months, 2 weeks ago

          Omigosh I love that

    ivypool2005 posted an update 11 months, 1 week ago

    NBWeek Day 4: Visibility for the Invisible

    @ivypool2005 (Ivy)
    @itzmoviestar (Movie Star/Connie)
    @dotalltheway (Jess)
    @everimagine (Eva)
    @flowerground6 (Flo)
    @evilxaudrey
    @goodandevil5050 (Shadow)
    @thecoven4ever (Cove)
    @carrot123
    @catsforlife (Cats)
    @alexofroom66 (Alex)
    @leilamofwoodsbeyond (Leila)
    @skyeoffoxforest[Read more]

        skyeoffoxforest replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        So, my sister has Cerebral Palsey.
        She is constantly teased, bullied and harmed, with no way of escape (She cannot walk or communicate).
        I feel so bad for her. She’s seventeen now, and the usual teenager would be doing fun things, hanging out with friends…
        But no. Kaylani (my sister) watches Disney movies and gets teased all day long.
        Actually,…[Read more]

          skyeoffoxforest replied 11 months, 1 week ago

          What I’m trying to say, is STOP ATTACKING PEOPLE WHO ARE DIFFERENT!
          IT ISN’T THEIR FAULT!

        dragonhealer replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        i just want to drop in to say this is amazing & inspiring

          dancingthroughsge replied 11 months, 1 week ago

          Definitely! I agree with you. It must be horrible to be bullied about something that is part of you.

    ivypool2005 posted an update 11 months, 1 week ago

    NBWeek Day 3: International Nonbinary People’s Day

    @ivypool2005 (Ivy)
    @itzmoviestar (Movie Star/Connie)
    @dotalltheway (Jess)
    @everimagine (Eva)
    @flowerground6 (Flo)
    @evilxaudrey
    @goodandevil5050 (Shadow)
    @thecoven4ever (Cove)
    @carrot123
    @catsforlife (Cats)
    @alexofroom66 (Alex)
    @leilamofwoodsbeyond (Leila)
    @skyeoffoxforest[Read more]

        ivypool2005 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        My favorite thing about being nonbinary is the automatic gateway it gives me to educate people, groups, and sometimes even entire communities. I mean, it can be really awkward, and it’s super annoying to have to explain myself when I’m not in the mood, but I really do like spreading awareness, and I feel like being nonbinary myself gives me a way…[Read more]

          pencilpeytie replied 11 months, 1 week ago

          ^^^ same as ivy!

        carrot123 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        Yay! I don’t know if I’ll be able to host a zoom, I might because it’s going to rain and thunderstorm for the entire day and I’ll probably stay inside, but I also might have some stuff to do (aka homework and other work that I have been procrastinating on…)

        flowerground6 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        My favorite part of being on the non-binary spectrum is not feeling like I have to fit the gender norms of either males or females. Though I am usually very female presenting, that is a choice that I can make myself, and I can also decide to present as more gender neutral or masculine. I don’t feel as bound by the traditional gender norms of s…[Read more]

    ivypool2005 posted an update 11 months, 1 week ago

    NBWeek Day 2: Ivy’s Storytime

    @ivypool2005 (Ivy)
    @itzmoviestar (Movie Star/Connie)
    @dotalltheway (Jess)
    @everimagine (Eva)
    @flowerground6 (Flo)
    @evilxaudrey
    @goodandevil5050 (Shadow)
    @thecoven4ever (Cove)
    @carrot123
    @catsforlife (Cats)
    @alexofroom66 (Alex)
    @leilamofwoodsbeyond (Leila)
    @skyeoffoxforest[Read more]

        flowerground6 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        I… wow. This is incredible and right and so, so needed. It’s such a fulfilling experience to read something like this and to know that you’re not alone. Everything that you say— about the media, perceptions, gender, and society— is so true and well-written. And your story, especially in the way that you write it, is so inspiring, especia…[Read more]

        skyeoffoxforest replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        I don’t really know what to say…
        That was amazing to read. Thank you so much!

        ivypool2005 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        thANK you! I swear I should be on the moth or something

        itzmoviestar replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        Ugh ****** I really needed this today. Questioning is scary. It’s nice to know that, I don’t know. That questioning is okay and being open is okay and changing your mind is okay. Thank you so much for sharing your story.

        goodandevil5050 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        I honestly am amazed beyond words. This story was so helpful, hearing your experience really inspired me and showed me that phases are okay. That it’s okay to make mistakes along the way. Thank you. Thank you.

        mmaarriiyyah replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        AMAZING STORY Ivy, im sorry I couldn’t make i tot the last Zooms!

    ivypool2005 posted an update 11 months, 1 week ago

    NBWeek Day 2: Coming to Terms

    @ivypool2005 (Ivy)
    @itzmoviestar (Movie Star/Connie)
    @dotalltheway (Jess)
    @everimagine (Eva)
    @flowerground6 (Flo)
    @evilxaudrey
    @goodandevil5050 (Shadow)
    @thecoven4ever (Cove)
    @carrot123
    @catsforlife (Cats)
    @alexofroom66 (Alex)
    @leilamofwoodsbeyond (Leila)
    @skyeoffoxforest[Read more]

        evilxaudrey replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        question! did you ever take a moment to just sit down and question your gender? im just wondering how you figured it out, did you just think about it little by little or have bigger moments when you just thought about for long periods of time? did something happen at a certain point that ultimately made you question your identity?

          ivypool2005 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

          Thanks for the question! I don’t know if this is what you’re asking for, but I did have periods of a few hours where I’d look something up and get deep into the gender rabbit hole online. Those periods were pretty helpful. For me, questioning my gender was a pretty constant thing, since a lot of my dysphoria is social (or it used to be? not sure…[Read more]

          ivypool2005 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

          Oh, and to answer your final question: there wasn’t a single moment when I started questioning my identity, but I do remember the first time I consciously thought about it. Not gonna go into that, but it was a body-related thing my mom said.

          flowerground6 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

          Good question— personally, although I go to a very LGBTQIAP+ accepting school, I didn’t meet a non-binary or transgender people (or practically know they existed) until a few years ago. Hearing the stories of some non-binary people I met really made me realize something about the strange feeling I had when everyone referred to me as only fem…[Read more]

        ivypool2005 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        Ack sorry one more thing: storytimes today will be by @ivypool2005 and @carrot123! Post them in your activity with the tag list some time today!

        everimagine replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        How did you find the pronouns and labels that fit for you?

          ivypool2005 replied 11 months, 1 week ago

          Pronouns, I still haven’t, but I do have something that at least isn’t bad: they/them. I had to go through a long period of he/him before I realized that wasn’t right. 2/10, would not recommend. One resource that’s really helpful is the Pronoun Dressing Room (http://www.pronouns.failedslacker.com/), where you can try on different pronouns. In…[Read more]

          everimagine replied 11 months, 1 week ago

          Thank you!

    ivypool2005 posted an update 11 months, 2 weeks ago

    The link to the Zoom meeting is on the doc! Hope to see y’all there!

    @ivypool2005 (Ivy)
    @itzmoviestar (Movie Star/Connie)
    @dotalltheway (Jess)
    @everimagine (Eva)
    @flowerground6 (Flo)
    @evilxaudrey
    @goodandevil5050 (Shadow)
    @thecoven4ever (Cove)
    @carrot123
    @catsforlife (Cats)
    @alexofroom66 (Alex)
    @leilamofwoodsbeyond (Leila)
    @skyeoffoxforest[Read more]

    ivypool2005 posted an update 11 months, 2 weeks ago

    NBWeek Day 1: Introductions

    @ivypool2005 (Ivy)
    @itzmoviestar (Movie Star/Connie)
    @dotalltheway (Jess)
    @everimagine (Eva)
    @flowerground6 (Flo)
    @evilxaudrey
    @goodandevil5050 (Shadow)
    @thecoven4ever (Cove)
    @carrot123
    @catsforlife (Cats)
    @alexofroom66 (Alex)
    @leilamofwoodsbeyond (Leila)
    @skyeoffoxforest (Skye)
    @mmaarriiyyah (Mariyah)

    Hey,…[Read more]

        ivypool2005 replied 11 months, 2 weeks ago

        My real name is Kieran, but I usually go by Ivy online. My pronouns are currently they/them, but I’m experimenting with some neopronouns. (Ey/em is looking good to me so far.) Some of my gender-related labels are: transgender, nonbinary, genderqueer, genderfluid, and fluidflux. Some of my other labels are: aromantic, graysexual, homosexual,…[Read more]

        ivypool2005 replied 11 months, 2 weeks ago

        Oh, and I’ll be hosting a Zoom call at 12:30 PDT, 2:30 EDT today. I’ll post the link on the doc closer to the time.

        everimagine replied 11 months, 2 weeks ago

        Greetings all! I like to go by Eva on here, and I am currently questioning my gender. A label that’s feeling more and more right is genderfluid, and my pronouns are she/her or xe/xem.

        flowerground6 replied 11 months, 2 weeks ago

        Greetings! I’m @/flowerground6, or Flo, and I’m so glad that you’re doing this event! In real life, I go by Leah or Nora (two nicknames of my full name) though I’m transitioning into changing my name to Nova, which has actually been the name of my non-binary imaginary friend since I was about six. I identify as a queer demigirl, and current…[Read more]

          ivypool2005 replied 11 months, 2 weeks ago

          I love your definition! The idea of being free from constraints and just existing really resonates with me.

          everimagine replied 11 months, 2 weeks ago

          Totally agree with Kieran!

        evilxaudrey replied 11 months, 2 weeks ago

        not nonbinary, im just a supporter, is that fine? anyway, my name is audrey and i’ve always gone by audrey and my pronouns are she / her, i’ve never found myself questioning my gender or my pronouns, although my sexuality is a whole different topic. im demisexual, so thats great and i’ve been questioning my sexuality for a year or two now.…[Read more]

          ivypool2005 replied 11 months, 2 weeks ago

          Yeah, all are welcome! And of course we’re nice, we’re the best 🙂
          Seriously, though, that is something I’ve heard a lot. Personally, I think that being nonbinary means we have a self-awareness and perspective that a lot of cis people, especially white cis people, don’t have, and that makes us nicer than the average human being. We know what it…[Read more]

        alexofroom66 replied 11 months, 2 weeks ago

        Sup y’all, I’m Alex (irl I technically go by Sasha, which, lucky me, is still a gender neutral name), a demigirl and I go by she/her and (probably, I’m trying to figure it out. Xe/xem is actually looking nice rn) they/them. Some of my other labels: greybiromantic demihomoflexible (I’ll go into more detail if required because *dramatic sigh* n…[Read more]

          alexofroom66 replied 11 months, 2 weeks ago

          oh yeah also: R U S S I A N and first year never

        pencilpeytie replied 11 months, 2 weeks ago

        OOh can you please tag me for the other posts?
        I’m Pen and I use they/them pronouns (only here though I’m not out yet). I’m also AFAB, biromantic and am on the asexual spectrum (though I’m questioning my sexuality). I’m also half-Indian, and am a third-year Ever. To me, being non-binary means not having to fit into a box someone else built for me…[Read more]

        goodandevil5050 replied 11 months, 2 weeks ago

        Hello! I’m Shadow but in real life my name is Olivia though I prefer to go with Olive. I’m questioning my gender right now adn I’m having a bit of trouble but currently I am sticking with the pronouns she/her until I can figure out which label fits me best. One of the other label I go with for my sexuality is Demisexual. I guess to me non-binary…[Read more]

          ivypool2005 replied 11 months, 2 weeks ago

          I really, really like the YouTube channel Ash Hardell. They have a lot of LGBTQ+ education and *** education videos, both about gender and sexuality, and always have a positive and welcoming attitude. (And an awesome editing style.) Another YouTube channel I like is Connor O’Keefe. He has links to some more queer YouTubers on his channel page, and…[Read more]

          goodandevil5050 replied 11 months, 2 weeks ago

          Ah, thank you so much! This is really helpful!

        ivypool2005 replied 11 months, 2 weeks ago

        Testing, if this works I’ll continue to do it

    ivypool2005 posted an update 11 months, 2 weeks ago

    @skyeoffoxforest
    Hey, I noticed you signed up for every storytime. The storytimes are meant to be if you want to tell a story – everyone will be able to read them all. Did you mean to sign up for all of them? Thanks!

        skyeoffoxforest replied 11 months, 1 week ago

        Ooooh I thought it meant you’ll tag me for other peoples story times. Sorry, no I didn’t. I don’t really have any…

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